I remember as a little boy thinking that I needed to hide my secret of being gay from “the outside world” (i.e. your average American next door neighbor, beer drinker, sports fan, truck driving, fast food eater).
Fast forward to 2014, I’m sitting on my stoop wearing a rainbow @burgerking crown. I love crowns. They symbolize purpose and power for me. I know somewhere out there, there will be one little gay boy just like me who will see this crown and feel a little more purposeful, a little more powerful, and a little more at home in his own American community because of it. #BeYourWay
The Language of Penny Loafers
As the weather gets warmer and we inch closer to summer, I most look forward to when I can wear my penny loafers again. I pair them with everything – linen suits, wool trousers and sport coats, chinos and madras shirts, and even the occasional pair of jeans and a button-up. While the style is versatile, however, every pair of pennies may not be. I find that the ones that look best with tailored clothes, for example, don’t go that well with jeans. The difference is all in the detailing.
Every pair of penny loafers has a U-shaped ridge that bounds the top of the toe. On my dark brown calf Edward Greens, this ridge is made with a decorative top stitch that results in a very clean line. On my dark brown suede Rancourts, the uppers and sides are handsewn together to form what’s known as a “moc toe” (moc being short for moccasin). It’s a slightly rougher looking line, and this roughness only becomes more so with time, as moc toes tend to loosen with wear. Finally, my tan-suede Ralph Laurens have the most prominent ridge of all, with the top piece of the leather folded down and stitched to the sides.
Generally speaking, the last two styles are a bit more casual than the first, if only because they’re rougher and more prominent looking. I find that they go better with slim chinos or jeans, but if you have a more casual sensibility with tailored clothing, they could work with those styles as well. Conversely, the decorative skin stitch technique tends to be the dressiest. You can see this a bit more easily when you compare those Rancourts above to these Aldens. Both are very American in style, but the Aldens are just a tad dressier.
Toe Box Shape
All things being equal, the sleeker the toe box, the dressier the shoe. In this regard, my dark brown calf Edward Greens are the dressiest, while the dark brown suede Rancourts are the most casual.
Color and Material
Like with all shoes, black and dark browns tend to look dressier, while lighter colors (and non-traditional colors) will look more casual. Calf also tends to be dressier than shell cordovan or suede. This is especially true over time, as suede “balds” with wear. This is because, while you can hide scuffs on calf with shoe polish, there’s little you can do about scuffs on suede. This isn’t a bad thing, as quality shoes look better well-worn, but it does mean that wear tends to show up more on suede than anything else.
It’s easy, when choosing a penny loafer, to find yourself drawn to whatever looks dressiest and sleekest, but beware. While those styles may suit you, it’s useful to think hard about what you might wear your loafers with. If it’s something like chinos or jeans, you might do better with something made with a moc toe or beefroll (beefrolls refer to the visible stitching on the sides of the penny strap, which resemble a cut of beef tied with cooking string). There’s language in penny loafers that will dictate how you can best wear your shoes. As Charles Eames once said, “The details are not the details. They make the design.”
I never knew how much being a mom would change me. It’s amazing how one little person and the love I have for her has brought new meaning to every moment. What once seemed so important, now feels insignificant. It’s like I get to see the world for the first time again, but through someone else’s eyes. It’s a beautiful thing to feel and experience so much more, but with that beauty comes a flip side – seeing through my daughter’s eyes the side of life that isn’t always so pretty.
To be honest, before I had North, I never really gave racism or discrimination a lot of thought. It is obviously a topic that Kanye is passionate about, but I guess it was easier for me to believe that it was someone else’s battle. But recently, I’ve read and personally experienced some incidents that have sickened me and made me take notice. I realize that racism and discrimination are still alive, and just as hateful and deadly as they ever have been.
I feel a responsibility as a mother, a public figure, a human being, to do what I can to make sure that not only my child, but all children, don’t have to grow up in a world where they are judged by the color of their skin, or their gender, or their sexual orientation. I want my daughter growing up in a world where love for one another is the most important thing.
So the first step I’m taking is to stop pretending like this isn’t my issue or my problem, because it is, it’s everyone’s… because the California teenager who was harassed and killed by his classmates for being gay, the teenage blogger in Pakistan who was shot on her school bus for speaking out in favor of women’s rights, the boy in Florida who was wrongly accused of committing a crime and ultimately killed because of the color of his skin, they are all someone’s son and someone’s daughter and it is our responsibility to give them a voice and speak out for those who can’t and hopefully in the process, ensure that hate is something our children never have to see. (x)